Perhaps the most predictable event in the life of an adult is the death of his parents. Between the ages of 34 and 54 most adults have lost at least one parent. By the time an adult reaches the age of 55 most have lost both parents. It does not matter how old your parents are when they die, you are never ready to let them go. Unfortunately there will always come a time when all you can do is hug them and say “goodbye!” 

I always tell my kids that one day mom and dad will pass on. Fortunately for them they won’t grieve for very long because they will be “hooked up!” Most people do not die until they are over the age of 70. I read the obituaries faithfully every day. I have noticed that most people die between the ages of 70 and 80. In fact every year pass age 70 is gravy! Accepting our own mortality helps us to prepare for the inevitable. We should get our houses in order so that when the time comes no one is passing around a hat to bury us. 

Simply put people grow old and die. When your parent dies it is only natural for you to feel somewhat overwhelmed by a combination of pain and sadness. You will grieve and through the grieving process you will begin to untangle your emotions and move on with your life. Grief is very individual so allow yourself to grieve in the way that best suits you.