Griffin Speaks

A few months ago I attended classes all day with my son, Greg Jr.. When I entered his physical education class his instructor invited me to sit at a desk located in front of the class. Soon after I took my seat a lady from the public health department entered the classroom.

  She informed the class that she would be teaching them about sex for the next few weeks. She told them that they would learn about oral sex, vaginal intercourse. She patted her behind and said we will also talk about anal sex. There was some snickering. She told them that they would not be able to embarrass her. I looked at the class and they looked at me. I wanted to fall through the crack of the floor because I was so caught off guard. She gave them a survey to ask them about their sexual history. There I was sitting in front of my twelve-year-old son’s first sex education class. I looked at Greg Jr. and could see that he was no longer Daddy Greggy Heggy, he was becoming an adolescent.  I had planned to tell him about the birds and the bees when he reached eighteen.  

Learning about sex is a good thing. We should feel free to talk about it. Birds do it, Bees do it and if you are happily married you do it too. Which brings me to the Sex Starved Marriage. I was amazed at a recent survey that found 75% of marriages in America are sexless.  If you are having sex less than 10 times a year the experts say that your marriage is sexless.

 I recall a friend who married a lady from Lowndes County telling me that on his honeymoon his wife told him up front, “you can’t be lazy in bed.” He claims that he has had a great sex life. In fact he claims that his marriage has been blessed with sex everyday since the honeymoon. They have been married over 35 years. He walks like the Frankenstein character, Igor, but he has a heck of a smile on his face all the time. 

If you feel that your marriage falls into the sexless category I recommend that you read Michele Weiner Davis’s book: “The Sex-Starved Married Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido.  Stop going to bed and seeing who can get to sleep first. Put the sparks back into your marriage and let your mate know that THE THRILL AIN’T GONE!

 Greg Griffin is a free lance writer. You can read his previous articles by visiting his webpage at www.greggriffin.com